The most important Love is Self-love

Today is Valentine’s Day the 14th February. The day when we are all supposed to share our love for our partner or the person we secretly admire. But do you love and commit to the most important person in your life? 

I remember at school this being quite a stressful day – who has got one, who hasn’t, who you’ve sent one too, which one you don’t want, who sent it if you did get one – is it reciprocated, will they know it was you who sent the card?

As we grow up we learn that its more of a commercial event – or perhaps we tell ourselves that so it doesn’t affect us if we are not in a relationship.

There is one relationship which is absolutely key to us, One relationship which we have complete control over. One relationship which we should prioritise above all others. One relationship which is usually ignored, left to starve, be empty, run down, uncared for. You’ve guessed it – its the relationship we have with ourselves – self love – self care.

It’s so important for us to look after ourselves, but so many of us neglect ourselves – low priority, low self worth, not worth the time, no time to do anything, can’t do anything, not as good as others, everyone else is better…..

So today on St Valentine’s Day I invite you to find five minutes and refill your jug, meditate, have a hot drink and biscuit, massage your hands, polish your nails…. whatever it is that means you are spending time on just you.

You may like to do the meditation I’ve recorded for you. Or you may want to invest more time in yourself (because you are worth it) and buy the “I love my life” mini-course (half price!)

If you don’t look after yourself, care for your body, mind and emotions – then how can you support the people you love around you? How can you do the things you love to do? Quite simply, you must find time to look after yourself.

Today is the perfect day to make that commitment to yourself – to love yourself – to care for yourself

“I love myself completely, just as I am at this moment”

Don’t put it off until you’ve lost weight, done exercise, found a partner, had a hair cut, got new glasses….. there is only one moment in time that you can effect and that is RIGHT NOW! Tomorrow never comes and yesterday is gone. Today is a present  – a gift to be the best you can be – to simply be you x

Here is a link to a beautiful visualisation meditation:

Would you like a Safe, Sacred Space to Connect & Grow Spiritually – this Women’s Circle could be for You <3

Do you desire to have a better spiritual and angelic connection?

A connection to your intuition, to your guides, your higher self, to Source?

Are you a woman who wants to develop your spiritual knowledge & be connected to a like-minded tribe of females.

Then this Women’s Circle is for you:

– A group for like-minded females wanting to develop spirituality & connect

– A safe, supportive environment to share and grow

– Themes that allow spiritual growth & confidence

– Monthly videos and workbooks and related meditations

– Structured themes and practical/ hands-on work for you to practise in your own time

– Monthly meditations recorded for you

– Monthly healing sessions

– New Moon Zoom Online Connection (virtual group), every new moon

– Secret & Sacred Facebook Group Each month you will work along a theme, with meditations recorded to play and use in your own time.

Plus a book thread where we can share spiritual books, thoughts and comments.

The key is creating a sacred space to be you, to question, share and learn. You can access the spiritual academy as part of your membership

The price for this is £15 a month (or just £111 for 12 months access) 

Testimonials from Members:

AM – I’ve been a member of Romella’s Women’s Group for a while and I love it. Romella guides you through different topics each month and provides you with resources (videos and downloadable pdf’s) to support your learning. She explains each topic clearly and is willing to answer any questions you may have. My favourite so far have been using crystals, aromatherapy and the guided meditations. It’s a great way to learn and the group is very supportive. Thank you

MJ – Went to the woman’s retreat today. Lovely people & a fab session. Can’t wait for the next one!!!! JG – Wow Romella, thank you soooo much, you have given so much time, thank goodness there was only a small group last session. It’s really interesting what appears to keep coming up, and how the colours and cards interconnect…. I know that the universe works in wonderful ways, and has lead me to your group, it’s all stepping stones to a more enlightened life. xxx

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Imbolc – the Celtic celebration of Spring

At the beginning of February is the Celtic celebration of Imbolc – no not the start of the six nations, or the fact our local pop up cake shop has reopened for the Spring – although these are also good reasons to celebrate!

Imbolc falls between the winter and spring solstice, this year its 1st February.

It is linked to the Goddess Brigid, with straw dolls made for her as part of the blessings ceremony.

Its key significance is the beginning of spring. So even though we might have snow and it is zero degrees outside, we welcome in the spring like energy of the new season.

I love to have daffodils in the house at this time of year – either in bulbs or a little vase. Their yellow heads bring happiness and always make me smile.

I am excited by the approach of spring as to me it represents the expansion of my business and my coming out of my bulb and into the world- sharing joy and tools – and being that yellow bud that brings joy to others!

Wishing you a blessed Imbolc x

Is Connection Important to You? Connection to Whom?

This week I’ve been pondering connection. A heartcentred lady, who I am lucky to have called a friend, passed away last week. Her light shone brightly and still does. Her connection can still be felt, like ripples around the world.

We have so many connections that come to us through family, friends, work, clubs, online groups and more. Some are positive, others less so. Some we thrive on and grow them deeply into our lives – like building a forest where the roots and branches intermingle. This is what Sam did, she created a beautiful tribe of heartcentred people looking to make a difference, one drop at a time.

Connection doesn’t have to be about other people, it can also be about us, our deep connection to our hearts, souls, lives and our own truth. It can be about connection to our spiritual team.

Deepening my connection to me has been top most of my… needs… is the word I’m going to use. I need to really connect back into me, my passion and put myself first. After a busy and emotional Christmas,  business relaunch and more – I seem to have lost me in the mix.

So this weekend I’m doing myself a 12 card reading for the year and sorting myself out a special aromatherapy blend created around emotions. I need to reconnect to myself, my mission, my guides. Today I thought this might also be the case for others. So I thought I’d create this as an offer – as often as leaders/teachers we are only a step or two ahead.

Special Offer for 10 people only

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New Women’s Circle in Newport

Looking to grow your spiritual connection this year and meet like-minded women to share your experiences? I am launching a 2nd Women’s Circle in Newport, running 4th Fri AM of the month.This month we’re looking at setting our intentions for 2019 – through connecting to our key words, vision boarding, journalling and meditating. The energy of these groups is so uplifting and connections stronger as we all lift each others vibrations higher 

:-). All women welcome Any questions please PM x £20 a session

Book here – https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/womens-circle-jan-a-journey-of-spiritual-connections-newport-shrop-tickets-50906423483

Creating Christmas Calm with Positive Touch with your Children

Christmas is a wonderful time of the year, however it can also be a stressful time too, especially for children.

There is the serious issue of overwhelm, anxiety and more negative emotions:

  • Which presents do you want? Endless decisions
  • What part do you get in the school performance?
  • Can Santa see me all the time?
  • Remembering words to the songs?
  • Standing in front of hundreds of people to “perform”
  • Elves and Santa-Cams and threats of bad behaviour resulting in less presents
  • Does Santa love me? As much as my friend?
  • Picking up on stressed parents?
  • Overhearing conversations saying negative things about other family members?
  • Writing and receiving (or not) Christmas cards
  • What are we doing in class today?
  • Where’s my school routine gone completely
  • How does Santa get into the house?
  • Why does he come in my room with the stocking?
  • Sugar and food overload
  • Expectations of behaviour and interactions with others
  • and more….

As a parent there are things you do to support your child or children in this festive time.

Touch is a wonderful gift – we all know about baby massage and the wonderful oxytocin hormone which is releases for both baby and parent doing the massage – the happy hormone flowing between both. Supporting and nurturing and creating a wonderful bond.

You can do massage at any age and story massage is a wonderful way to do this  – especially with Christmas songs and carols. Children love this and they can share the idea with you too! An absolute win win!

Why am I telling you this? Well firstly its something you can do by yourself, but if you want more support I have an interactive playbook and video series all around the topic of Christmas Calm – all for £15.99

The benefits:

  • Reduce the stress hormones that are whooshing around your child’s body
  • Create a nurturing, calming space for you and your child to be present in
  • Ability to connect to your child in a positive & fun way
  • Oxytocin the happy hormones flows through both child & parent and overrides the negative stress hormones that were present before
  • Freedom to use simple tools you can use at any time – from walking to/from school, cuddle time, bedtime and more
  • Enhance that special parent-child bond at a time of anxiousness and worries
  • Create a positive sleep environment
  • Support your child as they go through the day at school with a lack of routine
  • Help your child to know they are loved unconditionally, regardless of behaviour
  • Create positive memories over the festive period

What do you get?

  • An interactive playbook full of tools for your Christmas calm.
  • Story Massage 20 page Ebook and 6 part video series
  • Top 10 tips for Christmas Calm
  • Positive visualisations to do with your child (Christmas angel visualisation and snow visualisation)
  • 20 Mindfulness activities to do with your child
  • 5 days from the “Balance and Calm Toolkit for Christmas Calm” (including Christmas Eve with bonus calming ideas!)

All for just £15.99 – which you can use every year!

Buy your Christmas Calm pack which includes story massage videos and interactive playbook for £15.99 here – you can sign up here and I will email you the interactive playbook

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Top 10 Tips to Support your Energy at this Festive Time of Year

Top 10 Tips to Support your Energy at this Festive Time of Year

Another blist  this time looking at how you can support your energy and sanity in this very emotionally & physically draining time of year! These are some tips to reboost

  1. Breathe  – breathe slowly in and out x 5; you can use colours (eg pink is for love, green to heal, blue to calm etc)
  2. Use Bach Rescue Remedy – suitable for most people and children. The spray is particularly useful, if not a drop in water or drinks for you and kids can really calm!!
  3. Lavender oil – use a diffuser or few drops on your pillow or bedding (or kids clothing!)
  4. Rose quartz crystals are great for calming and creating an atmosphere of love – love for others and self love. Give them a clean and charge then program for what you want them to do (see my older blog. Its a full moon on Christmas day so make sure you give them a clean and charge on your windowsill after a busy day 
  5. Energy healing – sit quietly with hands on your solar plexus/ tummy or thighs and just allow the universal energy to flow (everyone can do this, no attunement needed). Use when watching TV – no needs to know 
  6. Writing – sit down and write what ever comes into your head – perhaps a letter to your future or past self or writing all the great things that have happened in 2015
  7. Write a channeled angel message. Sit quietly and breathe slowly and ask your favourite angel or guardian angel if there are any messages and then simply write everything down without analysing what you write.
  8. Cleanse your house, it may be vacuumed and dusted and mopped but energetically may need a cleanse too. Use an incense stick (or sage if you have any) and walk around the house holding the smoke in the corners and asking for the rooms to cleared energetically. Especially in the main rooms where loud talking occurs & kids bedrooms.
  9. Use oracle cards – pull a card a day or whenever you need a pickmeup message. Ask what message you need for that moment and then look at the picture at all the details which pop out at you and take all that comes into your mind as part of the message – then afterwards read the guidebook.
  10. Cord cutting – we all have tiny cords of energy joining us together – which is why we think f someone just before they call – these attachments however can link us to people from our past we no longer want around us, to people we work with or friends who you find draining after spending time with. So its important to be able to clear these negative links and keep the cords flowing with love. To cut your cords imagine a figure 8 and you are in one circle and everyone else in the other circle. Then ask Archangel Micheal (or do it yourself) cut the two circles apart and ask that only cord that are of love and for your highest good remain. This may need repeating daily if there is a long term drain. I will do a video on this as soon as my throat is better 

In the meantime I wish you all the very best of the Season and hope you find space for calm for yourself and enjoy all that the season has to offer

love and Sparkle

Rom

Mercury Retrograde – Good or Bad?! Find the Good in Everything!

For the last 2 weeks we’ve been in the pre-shadow of Mercury Retrograde and the Retrograde commences Nov 16th in the UK and runs until 6th December. Then we have 2 weeks of post-shadow of the Retrograde.

Don’t let other people’s moans about Mercury Retrograde make you lose 6 months of the year!

I’m a great advocate of being optimistic and ensuring that I benefit from the energies of the moment. So use this time to reflect on what issues are coming up for you, do some detective work around them and then take action to clear and release

Key pointers in a Mercury Retrograde:

– Watch your communication (that it can’t be misinterpreted).
– Allow others the benefit of the doubt if their communication to you is a little “off” or pushes your buttons
– Double check travel arrangements and allow time for changes
– It’s a bit late now but back up all IT (phone/laptop/cameras etc) and implement any updates before a Retrograde!

What is a Mercury Retrograde?

Mercury is closer to the Sun than Earth and so therefore passes earth about 3x in a year. There is a time when it looks like Earth has overtaken Mercury and this is what we call a “Retrograde – as it looks like its going backwards in relation to Earth).

Why do people moan when it’s Mercury Retrograde?
Mercury affects communications and electronics so when it goes retrograde it can often play havoc in these areas for the unprepared! Some of the reasons are:

  • Laptops, phones stop working or crash. Files refuse to open
    People misunderstand your emails or notes
    Travel plans can be disrupted
    Headaches, migraines and dizzyness
    Things to do Before a Mercury Retrograde
    Back up your laptop or IT and phone (photos, contacts etc)
    Research new product purchases
    Upgrade software
    Get car serviced
    During a Mercury Retrograde
    Double check any travel plans
    Ensure your mobile is fully charged and backed up
    Get a positive mindset in case your travel arrangements change or get delayed
    Double check any important emails that you may need send – so they are unclear and can not be emotionally or otherwise misunderstood
    Do some cord cutting around people, events or actions that are coming up
    Be open and flexible in travel and responses/actions from other people

How does Mercury Retrograde affect you?

The two weeks prior to Mercury going retrograde people may start feeling off kilter or the earth energies changing. In this period of the pre-shadow we start to notice themes, or people popping back into our radar who may have been absent for a long time, repeating patterns or issues coming up again.

These themes will be the things that we can work on in the Mercury Retrograde. If you like, a Mercury Retrograde is a great time to clear old stuff for one final time.

The first 2 weeks are the time to be a detective, to find out, root out and discover elements around your theme. The next two weeks are a great time to take actions related to the theme. The post-shadow 2 weeks are a final clearing up the loose ends.

On a Wellbeing Level?

The head is busy processing and our intuition is more attuned into our daily life. This can affect our wellbeing through

-Headaches, migraines or anxious feelings. – due to the processing and overwhelm of the task in hand
– Feeling ungrounded, dizzy or off-kilter

Tools to Support You
– Keep hydrated, this will help clear blocks, detox the body and keep the body and brain fully hydrated
– Take a salt bath or foot bath – again to detox and ground the body
– Do a grounding meditation, visualise roots, do some gardening or mindful exercises
– Eat root vegetables or dark fruit/veg
– Play or cuddle with animals as they are naturally grounded
– Mindful activities involving nature (eg walking)

Advantages of the Mercury Retrograde

With the pre & post shadow a Mercury Retrograde affects earth for approximately 7 weeks and in 2018 we are having 3 of them! So that’s 21 weeks – nearly half a year – so unless you want to wipe out half a year with a negative swish of your hand you may want to find positives about a Mercury Retrograde.

A great time to connect to your intuition, it is stronger during a Mercury Retrograde. Practice on simple things like what to eat or drink and move onto bigger decisions
Communication is strong as well as your intuition so it is a perfect time to do more (or regular) journalling. To connect to yourself and guides
To get clarity on the bigger picture of something you ware looking to manifest in your life – perhaps a new job or new product/service if self-employed

Things or contracts created in the Mercury Retrograde tend to have more flexibility or be open to opportunity, that those created outside of the retrograde (clean, no-mess solutions)

Greater creativity – due to the communication, higher speed processing

A chance to review past events and people and take action to clear loose ends

Cord cutting of people, vows, events and actions

Useful words for the Mercury Retrograde are:

Research – Communication – Intuition – Flexibility

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Here is a 10 minute video with more information:

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