new year words

Don’t Run to the Beat of Someone Else’s Drum

So 2018 is here. A new year, a new month, new possibilities. What changes are you going to make? What promises and vows are you going to make? When are you going to break them? What is social media saying you should be doing?  ENOUGH!

I’m fed up of social media telling me I should have new year resolutions, I should want to be slimmer, fitter, eat healthier, have a new vision board… Just because the calendar went from 2017 to 2018.

Now I always was a bit of a rule breaker (weird for someone who likes to control as well!!!). So no I will not be changing my life in 2018. the world didn’t end on 31st December at midnight and a new one start at 00:01am 1/1/18.

No, I won’t be committing myself to outcomes that I then beat myself up with or emotionally torture myself with if I fail.


I will make changes in my life as I feel it is the right time for me to do so.

When I am ready on an emotional, physical and mental level.

When I am balanced and emotionally committed.

When I feel I can commit to the actions and changes.

When I can work out what I truly need.

When I can work out a plan that is manageable and achievable for me.

When I can break the elements into small pieces, small enough for me to chew.

When I’ve allowed myself to cocoon and rejuvenate and re-energise myself.

When I’ve worked out what I really want and not what society thinks I want.

When I’m ready to progress with my life

When I’m ready for change

When I’m ready.


Push me and I’ll walk away or ignore you.

I dance and move to my own drum and no one else’s. Well maybe my children’s sometimes!



new year words

Focus Key Words for 2018 Rather Than Resolutions

It’s that time of the year. The fun and fizzle of the festive season has past. The excitement of the new year and new possibilities has burst into the mundane routine.

Feeling blagh! I don’t do resolutions, there’s always the need to lose a bit of weight and do more exercise whether January, May or October! I’ve tried in the past and then lost interest and ability to continue a few weeks in (OK may be 7 days in!). Then I’m left with the self-disappointment of failure and all those other negative emotions and self-talk start rolling in! Best not to do it  is my new philosophy – why put myself up for disappointment?!

Do I not set goals or aspirations? Yes I do, some are huge, just I don’t hang the success of the year or myself on them! So what do I do?

Firstly I sit quietly and meditate to clear the self-talk and mind-monkey that yaps on – a lot! Then whilst in that quiet space I sit and think and feel the three key adjectives that describe me and what I want to achieve this year. I need to feel them to see if they work for me (or resonate). Are they a good fit. I did this a couple of weeks ago and the words “calm – peace – opportunity”  came up.  Today I’ve done it again and have new words for myself in 2018:

For 2017 I had the key words of:

  • inner calm
  • flourish
  • connection
  • balance and calm

These words really mean something to me, I use them as a ruler when I want to create courses, make decisions  or with the family. I’m not sure I fulfilled the flourish but inner calm and connection were very much true for me!


For 2018 I have meditated and found these “feel” right for me:

  • inner calm
  • spiritual connection
  • pleasure & presence
  • in the flow and fluid
  • bloom

How do these work for ?

  • inner calm – emotional balance throughout the month (!), calm and positive around the family, space for me to find and attach my inner calm
  • Spiritual connection – to my higher & inner self, spiritual connection, connection to those I can empower
  • Pleasure & Presence – all I do needs to bring me pleasure or I won’t do it. Plus presence  in all do – mindful presence
  • in the flow and fluid – releasing blocks and issues and flowing downstream rather than fighting against the flow.  Fluid is being able to change direction or new paths
  • Bloom – for my business to flower and bloom and bring me and those it touches joy

So what would your words be? Please share them over on the facebook page!

And if a key word no longer fits or another comes along that’s better – that’s fine. I’ll adapt my key words so I’m in the flow – and not under pressure. So I don’t put pressure on myself for something I thought was right for me at the end of December or January 1st . The year flows from one day to the next and so does opportunity to be and connect to who you want to be

love and light